A letter I hope goes viral

Please, good and faithful readers, help me with this.  Suggestions for what I should add/delete.  I intend to send this to everyone.

January 1^st of 2007, my husband walked out on our family.  At the time he was managing the Bank of America in Willimantic, CT (a job I had helped him obtain, and the best he had had in our 13-year marriage), and he opened personal accounts and transferred all of our money into them before he left, unbeknownst to me.  He also quickly filed the federal and state tax returns.  The federal return was $9900 and when the refund came, it was direct deposited into his new personal account, without my signature, and without my receiving a penny of it.  The state was owed income tax, which I assumed would be paid from the federal, and which to this day, never was.  Of course I wrote to the bank and the IRS and explained the situation.  Neither organization did a thing.  I filed tax theft.  Nothing.  I called my husband’s boss and explained that I had 10 minor children at home, that my husband left us penniless, that my income tax refund was illegally deposited in his new personal account.  The next day I had a letter stating I was not allowed to deal with Bank of America again. 

                After I had begged and borrowed enough money from friends to procure an attorney to obtain child support, I started receiving $800/wk in March, which lasted until December of that year.  At this point, I was working, for the first time in 20 years and making $300/wk.  Sometime that year my ex moved out of state to New Jersey and then switched banks.  No one in the state of Connecticut bothered to enforce child support, which was lowered to $700/wk after my oldest at home turned eighteen, even though he was a full-time college student.  From December of 2007 to September of 2010 I received no child support, at all, with the exception of one payment, which in itself is very important to this story.

                That one payment, I later found, was the only thing that kept him out of a federal prison.   During the years I wasn’t receiving child support I was in court numerous times for visitation issues.  Every time I was there, the judge would not listen to money issues, at all.  I consistently brought up the fact that he stole my income tax return, to which he was ordered to pay my property taxes.  He never did.  I brought proof from the bank and the town that he didn’t pay for two years.  Nothing was done, and I subsequently lost my home for his lack of payment and the court’s lack of enforcement.  I had to move, with nine children.

                I constantly wrote letters, to the IRS, the state IRS, the HHS (federal child support enforcement), the state’s attorney general, and the U.S. attorney general.  I finally, in the winter of 2010, received a reply from a federal marshal who met with me in my attorney’s office to investigate my ex’s leaving the state and failing to pay child support.  After a year, and after they investigated both my and his bank records, I was told that that one payment he sent from New Jersey violated the statute that he be jailed for being out of state and not paying for a year, (being in state doesn’t count, I guess).  I’m sure he pre-researched this, and sent that one payment for his own insurance.  The same federal marshal also was investigating a series of fake checks that he had presented in court as proof of payment (when the order was for direct deposit).  I could never bring those to trial for lack of a NJ attorney taking a deposition, another technicality in his favor.

                During this time he brought me to court to make me redo three years of tax returns because I received a small refund, and he had a penalty.  The judge actually granted that I refile jointly, with the stipulation I would get half if there was an additional refund, and not be penalized if we had to pay.  During this time, support enforcement was actually involved, and he found that if he refiled, they would garnish the whole refund for back child support, so he never signed the returns I had to go redo.  A new judge ordered that I be given $1700 by June of 2011, for my additional refund.  That never came, and was never enforced, either.

                As of our final divorce, in 2009, it was stated in writing that he owed $3,500 in child support.  That was since support enforcement took over my case.  He owed me $70,000.  Now it’s close to $80,000.  When he finally started paying in the fall of 2010, he was only paying $340/week because he told the court he was unemployed.  He had been employed, making $2300/week for a solid six months, at that point.

                Last week, my federal tax return, in the amount of $394, was intercepted by the state of Connecticut to pay for the 2006 penalty, which was not mine.  To my knowledge, he has not filed a state or federal return in 5 years.  Today, I received in the mail a letter from support enforcement telling me that he filed personal bankruptcy and cannot be in contempt of child support owed.  When I called to clarify this, I was told that he still owes the money, it’s all adding up, but while in bankruptcy proceedings, he cannot be made to pay.  How can one file bankruptcy and not show past tax returns?  How can one file bankruptcy and have pay stubs totaling $130,000 a year?  How can the state of Connecticut not ensure that my children have food, clothing, or shelter?  How can they take $394 from a single mother of 11 (8 minors) who has been battling the corrupt and evil court system for five years and not ever receiving justice for her children?  I filed injured spouse.  I spoke with the state tax office.  I have names of everyone involved, I would be more than happy to furnish.

                There are other issues involved, which keep me up nights wondering how I alone will ever be able to provide for the children that their biological “father” and their state have neglected.  One is the lawsuit filed against me for a million-and-a-half dollars by my ex-husband, for ”pain and suffering” he experienced having to visit the youngest three children (and only ones he didn’t sign over his rights to), in supervision when he was found to be abusive, a fact we all new and that several law enforcement officials testified to, the other being a dishonest, and dismissed judge inflicting a settlement on me for my ex’s attorney fees – three months after he left my case.

                I am so tired of writing for help and being ignored.  Neither energy assistance, DSS, support enforcement, the magistrate court, the family court, the state IRS, nor the attorney general care about 8 children who are living 200% below the poverty line.